First Things First: Self-Care and the Power of Taking Care of You

What if I told you that you have an opportunity to take care of the most important person in the world and that if you did, you would change the world? Would you jump at the chance? Good! I want you to hang on for a second, this is meant to be a mind-bender: the most important person is YOU! Your primary responsibility is your self-care and your relationship to yourself. Self-care may not seem like a revolutionary, radical idea, but trust me, it is!  I am going to show you how taking care of yourself is actually a way to change the world for the better. We are also going to look at what self-care is, and is not, and explore how it relates to creating the life that you want.

I’m curious, what was your reaction when I told you the person you needed to care for was you? If you found yourself dismissing the idea, then you really need this article. You see, I believe in a very empowering principle called “personal responsibility”.  This means that if I make a mistake, I own up to it. If I am unhappy, angry, or upset, I acknowledge that I co-created that situation in some way, and it is on me to change my thinking and my circumstances.

What does this have to do with self-care? Because if I am going to be a happy, creative, loving person, I need to make sure I am taking steps to take care of myself. What happens then? I am a nicer person on the road. I am more patient with my kids and spouse. When someone treats me badly, I have the grace to be loving back. And we all know that in that transaction, where the person who lashes out get back love instead of reciprocal anger, those moments are the ones that can have the biggest impact. Taking personal responsibility for my state includes making sure that I am taking care of me. Then, I can be, do and have all the things that I want and be the person I want to be to my loved ones.

Sometimes self-care can be seen as something only selfish, flakey people do, as an excuse not to face the world or own up to their issues.  I assure you, that is not. Self-care is meant to soften hard edges, deepen faith, re-ground us in our spirituality and the core of who we are. It is meant to bring back lightness and joy and playfulness.  We then get to carry that lightness with us as we go back out into the world.

Self-care starts at the very basic: eat good food, get enough sleep, and drink enough water. Don’t underestimate starting with the rudimentary, just taking care of these three areas can be life changing! I know when I don’t get enough sleep, it’s difficult to enjoy much of anything, not to mention attempting to do anything else good for myself or anyone else! Doing these things intentionally, for the purpose of loving yourself can give them a new dimension, you may find more pleasure in cooking or getting to bed earlier in the day. Self-care can also look like meditating, reading an inspiring book, connecting with friends, sitting in silence, experiencing nature; basically, anything that gives you a sense of ease and reminds you of the goodness in the world.   Because we are most powerful when we remember that the world is good, and when we feel good.

Why is this so radical? And so important? Taking care of yourself is a way to keep the candle of feeling-good-now burning. Feeling good is actually the place we intentionally create out of. It is where we connect best with the Universe and can see the sparks of our creativity taking shape to something tangible. Neglecting to keep ourselves in that feeling-good place means we spend less time taking inspired action and keeping the momentum moving forward to our dreams.  Don’t feel worried if you haven’t been taking care of yourself, because in this abundant Universe you can change things very quickly once you understand how powerful your thoughts are. But being in that place of inspired action, when we feel so good about the steps we are taking, when we feel aligned with our purpose, is delicious. Once you experience it you want to spend more of your time in that creative, expansive place.

And the by-product? Everyone you come in contact with is affected by your energy. By the love and bliss shooting out of you. Further, most of us don’t dream big dreams that involve us alone. We usually have others in mind we want to heal or bless in some way. So if taking care of yourself is one of the keys to getting to that place, the place where all your dreams have come true, can you see how taking some time for yourself, caring for yourself, is, suddenly is not selfish, or a chore, but such an exciting part of what you want?

Comment below on some of your favorite self-care tips! I would love to hear about them!

Alee Attoe

Alee Attoe

Instructor and Coach

Alee is committed to one main thing: helping you follow your path in the most authentic, joyful way possible. As a Coach and Instructor with BestLife Coaching Society, she is highly skilled at simplifying concepts and helping her students and clients understand how to apply them effectively to their lives. 

 Certified BestLife Coach, and Class Instructor; and successful entrepreneur in the financial industry.